My turn or your turn?

Games games games…we all play them, don’t we?  In the dating world, games reign supreme–wait three days to call, hold in your interest, taper all swooning feelings in case they’re not reciprocated.  He who shows the least interest holds the most power, right?  I remember learning that Principle of Least Interest in a sociology class in college and it stunned me how true it is.  It holds true for dating of course, but also in job interviews, friendships, business deals, shopping for cars, buying a house, and plenty of other venues.  But what if we all refused to play?  What if we were all transparent with our motives, our reactions, our feelings, and our level of interest?  See, I’m a heart-on-my-sleeve person, sometimes much to my own chagrin, but sometimes I like just putting it all out there.  I’ve never really been afraid to be vulnerable, but then again, I’ve never really been burned.  Am I due?  God, I hope not.  I don’t want to change.  It feels better to walk away or go to bed at night or go through my day knowing that I was true to myself and didn’t hold anything back.  But here’s the catch–rarely does anyone else act the same way, so then I get insecure that I am alone in my interest, my giddiness, my affection.  Insecurity doesn’t look good on anyone.  Ever.  So how about we all say GAME OVER!  Just say it–I like you, or I don’t really feel a connection, or I’ll call you (and mean it), or I want this house, or this job isn’t right for you, whatever.  Say what you need to say. No one needs to know whose turn it is.

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